Whenever you are in bed with your lover be it, wife or husband, the last thing you want to do is turn them off.
Not everyone is much clear in his mind on how to have sex which feels great.
That said, here are a few common mistakes that you should never commit when in the act.
1. Not kissing:
Believe it or not, many people (and this includes women) do not kiss their partner when they are having sex. Why?
Perhaps because the positioning does not allow for it or they are too eager to climax and feel that it might break the rhythm.
Nevertheless, it is highly recommended that you make an effort to kiss your partner during the act. Doing that will only add to the experience.
2. Biting before your partner’s ready:
While many people enjoy an aggressive partner, biting any part of their body before they are aroused may lead to pain and discomfort (and might even lessen the chances of any further action ) or simply scare them off.
So just make sure your partner is fully excited before you bite their ear, shoulders, neck or any other part of their body.
3. Ignoring everything but sexualised parts:
Genitals are great, no doubt, but you should definitely pay attention to other parts of your lover’s body and focus for some time on their entire body – knees, wrists, back and stomach are highly erogenous zones for men as well as women.
Gently caressing these areas will help excite your partner further; in turn, increasing the chances of them pleasuring you back.
4. Putting your much of your weight on your partner:
Even if you are a girl! It is okay to lose yourself in the moment every once in a while and go crazy on your lover.
But when you are lying on top of them, you have to be careful not to drop your weight on them.
Chocking them or hindering their ability to breathe will anyway kill the moment and any chances of some good action.
5. Climaxing too soon/ too late:
This one is especially for men. You need to have good control on your muscles to ensure that you can ejaculate at an appropriate time.
Too soon and you may leave your partner unsatisfied; too late and it might leave your partner feeling as if they are pumping iron at the gym.
To avoid this, spend a lot more time on foreplay (this will help men as well as women). If you take too long and can only ejaculate via manual stimulation, do your best to get your partner to orgasm and then they can return you the favour.
6. Not warning your partner before you climax:
If you are going to let go – and this applies even to women you need to tell your partner beforehand.
Something as simple as “I am going to let go,” will suffice.
Your partner deserves to know.
7. Treating sex like porn:
Although some couples enjoy having raunchy sex, you’d be wise to talk to your partner before you engage in such behaviour.
If you begin being nasty with your lover without knowing if they like it first, chances are the scenario won’t end on a happy note.
8. Staying quiet:
Do you like to hear it when your partner is having a good time?
So pay them the same respect and speak up when you are enjoying yourself.
Something as simple as a little moan, or even saying something like, “that feels so good,” will encourage them and educate them further on your moan zones.
9. Mechanical act:
It may feel comfortable to you to pump away like you do at the gym, but you will quickly discover that most people do not enjoy such an act.
Mix it up a little bit; go fast at times, then slowly.
Be creative and you will find yourself enjoying some variation too.
10. Pretending to have an orgasm:
A lot of women are guilty of this. We have enough movies and examples that highlight how ladies fake orgasms.
It is true that the orgasm of a woman is still a big mystery for many but that does not mean it should be a fake one.
The main reason being, the partner would, some day or the other, get to know this and he would definitely not like it.
11. Jokes about private parts:
Not everyone is well endowed when it comes to private parts. Laughing or cracking a joke about a partner’s private part may make him or her feel uncomfortable and it will only ruin the mood.
Just refrain from giving negative comments on private parts while having sex.
12. Comparing a lover with an ex:
There can be no bigger turn-off than comparing a partner with an ex-lover during sex. No matter how wonderful sex life you might have had with an ex-partner, mentioning it while having sex is not going to help anyone.